Want to succeed? Be authentic!

Jun 15, 2019

Living life as our most authentic selves is something we all desire. I believe that deep down we know what’s best for ourselves; but sometimes we get a little lost...

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself, “If I stay on my current path, and keep doing exactly what I’m doing, will that make me happy in the longterm?”

“Am I happy right now?”

"Will I be happy in five years?" "What about twenty years?" "What about at the end of my life?"

If you answered “no” to any of those questions, it might be time for a change. Self reflection is the first step toward becoming your most authentic self.  

Our habits determine our quality of life, so we need to examine them closely.

If you want a better quality of life, first take a look at your daily habits. Then take a look at how you react when you experience a setback or when you feel negative emotions.

Have you ever found yourself focusing on trivial things and letting them consume your thoughts?
It’s so easy to get caught up in little things that happen in our daily lives, and to let them drain our energy. When this happens, ask yourself, "Will this matter or be important when I am 80 years old?"

If the answer is yes, then you should continue working on a solution.

However, if your answer is no, then you need to take a deep breath and let it go. Find a distraction.  Journal. Scream into a pillow. Forgive. 

The best way to think clearly is to zoom OUT and think "big picture." Think about where you want to be in the future, who you want to be in the future, and work on becoming that person NOW.


If you want to go from Point A to Point B, you can’t get there by continuing to be the person at Point A. The actions, habits, lifestyle, and mindset that the person at Point A exhibits simply won’t help you.

You will stay stuck. You have to be a forward thinker.

Start by dreaming as the person at Point B!

This may not come naturally at first, but let your imagination wander. What emotions does the person at Point B feel? What are their daily habits? How do they eat? What do they wear? How do they interact with strangers? How do they interact with their family? What’s their work ethic? What does the person at Point B do when faced with adversity or experiences a set-back? How do they react to success?

Once you’ve defined who you want to be and what habits you want to incorporate into your life, make a decision.

Change happens with decisions, not tactics.

So, you’ve decided you want to change. But how do you go about it?

In order for you to rise above your excuses (and believe me, they’ll pop up), your desire for change has to be more important than the current moment. It has to be strong enough to survive whatever life throws at you.

Start declaring you're ready for change by self reflecting. 

Spend some time reflecting on these questions and prompts below and see where it takes you…

  • Three words that describe my best self are…

  • Three ways I will embody these words this week are... 

  • Three words that describe how I want to treat other people are...

  • Three people in my life that I want to improve my relationship with are...

  • Five skills I’m trying to develop in my life right now are…

  • The way I can learn or practice those five skills this week are...

  • Three simple ways I can add value to those around me this week are…

  • The main feelings I want to cultivate in my life, relationships, and work this week are...

  • How do I spend my free time?

  • Where am I hiding?

  • Three things I can do or create that would bring me more meaning in life are...

You know what I’ll say next...take these answers, and figure out how you can change your habits based on them.

Find your Point B. Start dreaming. Start living. I can't wait to see you there... Happy reflecting! 

*These are the reflections that I use on a weekly basis. Shoutout to the High Performance Habits Clarity Chart for part of this inspiration/jumpstart with personal development and personal clarity!*



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