How to feel confident on a date!
I’ve been stood up. Twice actually! Two different guys... and a third one cancelled on me minutes before our date. When this happens our IMMEDIATE reaction is to think, “What’s wrong with me?”
So I’ll start by saying that getting stood up does NOT mean ANYTHING is wrong with you.
It also doesn’t mean…
That you’re ugly.
That you aren’t funny,.
That you're uninteresting.
That you’re too chunky.
That you’re unworthy of love.
That you came on too strong.
It literally says nothing about you. I believe it has a lot to do with the other person.
If it says anything about you, it might be that you have some work to do when it comes to trusting your self-worth. This will raise your standards, help you follow your intuition to discern earlier if a person is worth your time, and it will also change the energy & vibe you’re putting out there.
This advice is for YOU whether you’re single, dating, married, or planning a night out with friends!
- We have to recognize that we can have self-love AND want to improve ourselves so we can impress...
We can simultaneously love and appreciate our bodies while still wanting get in shape and improve ourselves. Finding love and appreciation for your body in your current season will allow you to think LESS about any destination or number on the scale. It will help you to think MORE about enjoying the journey and being in the present moment. - We need to prioritize self-care.
If you have other places to put your energy that make you feel special, beautiful, less stressed, and confident, you’ll start to focus LESS on the number on the scale. You’ll start to recognize that you can make yourself happy in other ways that aren’t tied to weight loss. - Find clothes that fit YOUR body shape well.
The dates I’ve felt the most confident on have been the dates when I didn’t wear what I thought I “should” wear, but wore what made me feel best! Investing in clothes that fit your shape and in colors that give you joy, will allow you to radiate confidence. THAT’S what people notice!
And here's the thing about dating y'all... If our end goal is to end up with one person, get married, and start a family, this means that there are MORE people out there who AREN’T right for us and way FEWER that are. So, getting rejected is just a part of the process when it comes to finding the right person.
And if someone stands you up, they are DEFINITELY not the right person for you...
And as Case Kenny says, "You're never too much for someone who can't get enough of you!"
So dust yourself off. And when it’s a no, don’t fixate on it. Think: NEXT!
